Going on dates is hard. Dating is hard. How do you know that the person is right for you? How do you know if they are really who they say they are? There are so many things that can go wrong but on the other hand, there is the chance that you could really find love. The only thing that you can do is be yourself, open your heart and give it a chance. If it doesn’t work out, at least you know that it’s not your fault and you did everything you could. Having said that however, there are a few things that you can do to ensure a good date. One of those things is knowing what not to talk about. Here are a few ideas of topics to avoid on a first date:
The latest celebrity news is not as amazing to everyone as it might be to you. Even if you have nothing to talk about, the last thing you should ask is how they feel about Brad and Angelina’s divorce. Talking about celebrity news simply shows your date that you don’t really have a life of your own. The celebs are full of drama and excitement and it’s easy to wish you had their exotic life. Even if you are not one of those people that lives vicariously through celeb gossip, your date might think you are and that’s extremely off putting. Now, if your date is the one that brings up celebrity news, then by all means; have at it.
This is an obvious one. Everyone knows this one. Don’t talk about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife. Your date doesn’t need to know why you broke up, what kind of relationship you had, if they were a jerk or if you messed up. These things are just not necessary on a first date. If things progress then yes, they might need to know that you were previously married, especially if you have kids but on the first date, keep things superficial and see if you guys even get along. If you can hold a conversation without five awkward pauses, then there’s no point in taking things further anyway.
It doesn’t matter how invested in the election you were, if their political party is not important to you, then don’t ask. The problem with this is that finding out what side of a party someone is on can give you preconceived ideas about who they are and what they stand for. Your assumptions may be completely wrong and you end up missing out on a great person. Save the political discussion for after you have already gotten to know one another a little bit. Then you may be able to see past your political differences.
Money shouldn’t be an issue. You should be dating someone for their money or their status so why should you even talk about it? Don’t flaunt it if you have a lot of money and don’t complain about it if you don’t. Either end of the spectrum could portray either arrogance or gold digging to your date. Just let that one slide and talk about if and when the time comes to merge your finances together.
This might sound like a weird one. If you have mutual friends that’s fine. Even a funny story relating to the conversation is fine. However, a relentless stream of stories about people that your date does not know if very similar to Hollywood gossip sites for your date. They can’t relate, don’t care and don’t want to know. If things get more serious, your date will meet your friends and then they will care about the stories, but for now, they want to know about you and find out if you are compatible with them; your friends don’t factor in to that decision.
So now you know what not to talk about, here is what you can talk about: your date. Ask them questions about who they are and what they like and where they are from. People love to talk about themselves. If you show that you are interested in them, this will be a very positive thing for your date.